If you are looking for a relationship with your sexual partner, waiting until you establish an emotional connection would be beneficial.
Again, it is different for everybody and every body. *Yes, there is a difference*. If you want a short-term fling then non-committal sex is totally fine.
It can work for you and your plans. Tune into yourself, and figure out what you really want. [Read: Emotional intimacy or sexual intimacy – chicken or the egg?]
14. Long-distance relationships
If you only see this person a couple of times a month, it is going to drastically affect how long you wait before having sex.
And this could honestly go one way or the other. If having an emotional connection is important to you, you may wait longer to become intimate with your partner.
However, you may feel like having sex will create an emotional connection between you, and you may choose to do it sooner rather than later.
If an emotional connection is not important to you, then you may have sex early on in the relationship. Especially since you rarely see each other, it may become increasingly important to make use of the time that you do spend together. [Read: Steamy, sex tips to have Skype sex with your lover]
15. Consider the living arrangements
If you have children, a roommate, or perhaps still live with your parents, this severely impacts how long you wait before having sex with your partner. Let’s just face facts, this can be a huge block in the sex department.
It’s hard to get in the mood when your baby is crying in the next room or your mom is watching her favorite show upstairs. [Read: What are the biggest sex buzzkills?]
Dump him. If you explain to him that you’re not ready and hope he’ll wait for you, and he is still putting pressure on you or tries to say you don’t have to be exclusive because you’re not giving him what he “needs.” He is not worth your time.
17. You’re prepared to be safe
This really needs to be a conversation you have before sex. It may not be sexy, but there is nothing less sexy than unplanned pregnancies and STIs.
You’re either on birth control or will be using protection – or both. If you’re not ready to do those things, you’re definitely not ready for sex with that person. And if they refuse them, never sleep with them.
18. You have deep emotional feelings for them
Sex can be just physical, for sure. But if you’re going out on dates and want a future with that person, make sure you have an emotional connection first. Not only will it make the sex better, but you’ll be more certain of it. [Read: Small ways to build a stronger emotional connection]
19. You respect each other
You can’t have sex with someone who doesn’t respect you. If you do, you’re not really respecting yourself. They need to treat you right. You both have to respect each other. If you don’t, things could get ugly.
20. Are you sober or under the influence?
Whether you’ve been using drugs or drinking, you cannot consent when under the influence. The same goes for your partner. You should both have clear heads.
21. You simply want to
This is a really big point. Do you want to have sex with them? Is every part of you positive about it? [Read: The sobering reasons drunk sex is never okay]
You really have to be 100% certain you want to do it before going through with it. If that means waiting a few months and 15 dates, so be it.
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